Nine Reasons not to get Married Again

[rocketgirl]

A few days ago, I suddenly had the thought.  Yep, I'd probably do it again.  I don't know where that came from.  (Not anytime soon, natch).

[Beer Gut]

By whining about it, he is playing the victim.

It wasn't me whining about it, and I'm not a victim of divorce.  Neither is my wife.

It was my sister in law, who retired from NASA with a real nice check, but decided to take all she could from the ex.

You know, because "good for her."

[Mrtambourineman]

Yeah, women often get steamed when the shoe is on the other foot.  *shrug* 

Ya, you should hear my lesbian co-worker talk about her ex wife.

[Run Amok]

I think this goes here.

[Run Amok]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/shannon-lell/when-a-newly-divorced-mom_b_6469990.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063

[Rejaneration]

I think this goes here.

Ha! Pretty funny.

[Run Amok]

Also, this right here: http://momastery.com/blog/2014/04/17/lie-truth-marriage/

That sounds miserable. If that's what marriage is supposed to be like? Yeah. No thanks. I'll just keep on living in blissful sin for evah, tyvm!

[rocketgirl]

Also, this right here: http://momastery.com/blog/2014/04/17/lie-truth-marriage/

That sounds miserable. If that's what marriage is supposed to be like? Yeah. No thanks. I'll just keep on living in blissful sin for evah, tyvm!

Or she could have said "don't go on autopilot when life gets in the way".  You can come apart in tiny little increments and you don't even know it.  Garden untended and all that.

That's very nice for her and her husband that they found their way back just by continuing to work and adding back in some "doing decent things".   But it's not a given that work is enough.

[Run Amok]

I don't want love to be a  battle you have to show up and WORK every single day. I want it to be easy and breezy and fun. And, right now it is. And, honestly, if it becomes the kind of slog she describes? Yeah, no thanks. I'm out. Life's too fucking short to be fucking miserable.

[radial]

There's a meta-thread that runs through this place about whether love should be hard work or the opposite.  I think the opposite. 

[rocketgirl]

I don't want love to be a  battle you have to show up and WORK every single day. I want it to be easy and breezy and fun. And, right now it is. And, honestly, if it becomes the kind of slog she describes? Yeah, no thanks. I'm out. Life's too fucking short to be fucking miserable.

Well yeah.  But I do have to consciously choose not to let life get in the way.  Like my impulse when stressed is to pull away and I try not to do that.  (I like to think I've learned a few things).

[Rejaneration]

There's a meta-thread that runs through this place about whether love should be hard work or the opposite.  I think the opposite. 

I used to think it was.  Now, I know better!